Stuff in the ‘Relationships’ Category

7 August, 2017

Grant

Ann Grant didn’t aspire to be a divorce lawyer. She was a partner at a large multi-national law firm, representing fortune five hundred companies, married to a corporate litigator. They had three children and life was good. Until it all came to a crashing halt. Over the next five years, Ann went through a devastating divorce that threatened her emotional health and financial stability.

Divorce is a multi-billion-dollar industry — but the system is rigged. Divorce “professionals” (lawyers, mediators, forensic accountants and therapists) bill by the hour. They financially benefit when women are indecisive and uninformed. Divorces often needlessly drag on for years, while the “professionals” line their pockets with divorcing women’s misery.

Ann had an epiphany. As she was driving down the freeway, headed to trial with the evidence she needed to “win,” she realized a fundamental truth. No one “wins” in a divorce. There are only losers. The only way to take back her sanity was to stop the madness. And she did just that.

Through the process of letting go and finding forgiveness, Ann took back her life. She found her way through the chaos by developing a personal mindfulness practice, and combined with her legal know-how, was able to create a new and better life for her and her children.

When it was finally over, she made the decision to commit her career to helping women navigate the legal minefields and outsmart the system so they can get to a new and better life with their sanity intact and their money where it belongs: in the bank. In her legal practice in Manhattan Beach, California, she helps dozens of women every year. And now, in her forthcoming book, The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot (New World Library), she reveals the secrets she has learned and that the industry does not want women to know, because they provide a swift route out.

Together with financial advisors and therapists, Ann also runs workshops for women facing divorce and blogs frequently on the topic. It is the women in these workshops, and their stories, that are the inspiration for the work Ann is now doing through DivorceHacker.

Ann received her Juris Doctorate degree from the University of San Diego School of Law where she graduated cum laude, 1991. While there, she served as Editor of the San Diego Law Review. She is the former editor of The Woman Advocate Newsletter, the official publication of the Woman Advocate Committee of the Litigation Section of the American Bar Association and an adjunct professor of law at Southwestern University in Los Angeles.

Check out Ann and her blog at
www.thedivorcehacker.com
Twitter @DivorceHacker
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https://www.instagram.com/divorcehacker
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20 June, 2017

The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot, by Ann E. Grant

We’re thrilled to announce that Georgia Hughes, Editorial Director of New World Library has nabbed rights to The Ann E. grantDivorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot by Ann E. Grant. Divorce is a multi-billion-dollar industry — but the system is rigged.  Divorce “professionals” (lawyers, mediators, forensic accountants and therapists) bill by the hour.  They financially benefit when women are indecisive and uninformed.  Divorces often needlessly drag on for years, while the “professionals” line their pockets with divorcing women’s misery.  The Divorce Hacker’s Guide to Untying the Knot puts a stop to all that with a step-by-step guide to ending a marriage quickly and efficiently while giving women back their power.

As a litigator and a survivor of a high-conflict divorce, Ann Grant know both sides of this story — and what she knows is that divorce does not have to be drawn out, expensive or complicated.  She experienced first-hand how devastating divorce can be both emotionally and financially and she learned how not just to survive, but thrive. When it was finally over, she made the decision to commit her career to helping women navigate the legal minefields and outsmart the system so they can get to a new and better life with their sanity intact and their money where it belongs: in the bank. In her legal practice in Manhattan Beach, California, she help dozens of women every year.  And now, in DivorceHacker, she reveals the secrets she has learned and that the industry does not want women to know, because they provide a swift route out.

“If you can make a human in nine months, you can untie the knot in less time, and I will show you how to do that.” — Ann E. Grant  

Check out Ann on the web at www.thedivorcehacker,com.

 

 

 


10 November, 2016

LOVE AND…Assholes, The One & Other Fun Ways to Sabotage Your Relationship, Jen Kim

From the popular thirty-something Psychology Today blogger–Valley Girl with a Brain–comes a self-help book that doesn’t want you to change. Kim draws on personal experience as well as the latest scientific findings to shed light on why we do the things we do when it comes to relationships. (Skyhorse Publishing, World Rights, 2018)


25 January, 2016

Daughters of Divorce by Terry Gaspard and Tracy Clifford

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Restore your faith in love and build healthy, successful relationships with this essential guide for every woman haunted by her parents’ divorce.

Over 40 percent of Americans ages eighteen to forty are children of divorce. Yet women with divorced parents are more than twice as likely than men to get divorced themselves and struggle in romantic relationships. In this powerful, uplifting guide, mother-daughter team Terry and Tracy draws on thirty years of clinical practice and interviews with over 320 daughters of divorce to help you recognize and overcome the unique emotional issues that parental separation creates so you can build the happy, long-lasting relationships you deserve.

 

Reviews

“If you’re in a family of divorce as a daughter or parent this book is for you. Gaspard and Clifford are a mother and daughter who have gone through it themselves. From self-esteem to the impact on your relationships, this book gives you practical doable action steps to help you learn how to change your story or narrative and see divorce through adult eyes. It can be very helpful for adult children of divorce, and for mothers and fathers who are looking for insights and ideas to help their daughters.” – Jeff Zimmerman, ABPP Clinical Psychologist and co-author of Adult Children of Divorce and The Co-Parenting Survival Guide

Daughters of Divorce is an original and timely treatment of a very important topic. Bravely told from the perspective of the authors, a divorced mother and her daughter, Daughters of Divorce provides empathy, guidance and wisdom for those who are struggling to understand the impact of divorce on their lives and choices. Highly recommended!” – Joshua Coleman, Ph.D. Psychologist and author of When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don’t Get Along

“Finally! A book about divorce that is specifically focused on women. This thoughtful, insightful and uplifting book acknowledges the unique impact of divorce on its daughters while offering concrete steps and practical solutions.” – Elisabeth J. LaMotte LICSW, author of Overcoming Your Parents’ Divorce

“Rarely have I read a book that is as honest, courageous and optimistic as Terry Gaspard’s Daughters of Divorce. Ms. Gaspard has skillfully crafted a book that combines authenticity, warmth and clinical expertise – a rare combination in the self-help genre. This gem of a book is chock filled with intriguing personal reflection, vignettes, tasks and assignments. It is a virtual handbook for daughters seeking to stop this transgenerational pattern, dead in its tracks.” – Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

“”…the authors’ solid and empathetic advice is applicable to anyone who has suffered childhood traumas affecting his or her ability to trust in the power of love.”
” – Publishers Weekly


5 December, 2015

Gaspard

small web use Terry  Tracey IMG_9460Today, about 40 percent of all children in America will experience a parental divorce prior to the age of eighteen. For years, researchers have identified the damage divorce inflicts on the lives of children. In recent decades, many studies have examined the negative impact of parental divorce on children into adulthood. However, few have offered concrete strategies for overcoming these difficulties and none have shed light on the unique challenges of women as daughters of divorce.

As a therapist practicing for over thirty years, Terry Gaspard has noticed that while parental divorce impacts most children into adulthood, daughters experience unique vulnerabilities that put them at great risk of passing on the legacy of divorce to their children.

Terry’s interest in the lives of women who grew up in divorced families began with her own experience. She decided to write Daughters of daughters of divorceDivorce with her daughter Tracy Clifford because the topic of overcoming the legacy of divorce is a personal one for them – divorce goes back five generations in their family. Having experienced divorce in their own lives, they have a keen understanding of how it can affect the inner lives of children, and impact the kinds of adults they become.

In their new book, Daughters of Divorce: Overcome The Legacy of Your Parents’ Breakup and Enjoy a Happy, Long-Lasting Relationship, mother-daughter team Terry and Tracy tackle a timely and very important topic – the intergenerational aspect of divorce. They draw on Terry’s thirty years of clinical practice and interviews with over 320 daughters of divorce to help readers recognize and overcome the unique emotional issues that parental separation creates so they can build the happy, long-lasting relationships they deserve.

“Rarely have I read a book that is as honest, courageous and optimistic as Terry Gaspard’s Daughters of Divorce. Ms. Gaspard has skillfully crafted a book that combines authenticity, warmth and clinical expertise – a rare combination in the self-help genre. This gem of a book is chock filled with intriguing personal reflection, vignettes, tasks and assignments. It is a virtual handbook for daughters seeking to stop this transgenerational pattern, dead in its tracks.”

Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us

Unlike most books about divorce, Daughters of Divorce asks women to honestly examine their own lives and identify how their past might contribute to relationship failure. In Daughters of Divorce, the authors unveil The Seven Steps to a Successful Relationship which provides a road map for women to recognize destructive dynamics in intimate relationships and take steps to change them so they can create strong partnerships and break the legacy of divorce once and for all.

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience specializing in divorce, children, and families, as well as a nonfiction writer and college instructor.

She is a sought-after speaker who frequently offers commentary on divorce and her research on daughters of divorce. Two of Terry’s research studies on adult children of divorce have been published in the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. Terry is a regular contributor to Huffington Post Divorce, divorcedmoms.com, divorcemagazine.com, and yourtango.com. Tracy Clifford is a writer and conducted the in-depth study of daughters of divorce with her mother. Terry and Tracy live in New England and are co-owners of movingpastdivorce.com.

Follow Terry on Twitter at @MovingPastDivorce and find updates about their book on their Facebook page: Moving Past Divorce

 

 


23 July, 2014

DAUGHTERS OF DIVORCE, Terry Gaspard and Tracy Clifford

Licensed clinical social worker, teacher, and relationship blogger, Terry Gaspard, and her daughter Tracy Clifford’s DAUGHTERS OF DIVORCE, a guide for the millions of women who are haunted by their experiences growing up in divorced households and are struggling to heal the wounds of the past and build lasting, happy relationships as adults. (Sourcebooks, Fall 2015), World excluding Asia