Nancy Dreyfus’ TALK TO ME LIKE I’M SOMEONE YOU LOVE (Tarcher/Penguin) is a brilliant communication tool for anyone who has hit a wall in a relationship, from a couple to a parent and child or even good friends. Dreyfus, a therapist with more than two decades of experience, has created “flashcards for real life”—written statements that hold the power to express what we wish we could say to the person we love when we can’t find the right words or the right tone to say it.
From TALK TO ME LIKE I’M SOMEONE YOU LOVE
I created [this book] for couples to transform unproductive, mean or just plain crummy interactions into moments of connection. I like to see this book as a first-aid kit for swiftly generating goodwill and restoring intimacy in exchanges that have gone off course. It contains 101…frank, non-defensive messages that have the power to quietly reverse the course of a difficult interaction by going right to the heart of ‘feeling connected.’ These messages work because one person has made the momentous choice to redirect the interaction…to the context. This is the real arena—how the two of you are treating each other in the moment.