Dorothy Foltz-Gray spent twelve years writing With and Without Her: A Memoir of Being and Losing a Twin. “It’s not that I’m a slow writer,” says Foltz-Gray. “Even though I’m a professional journalist, it took me years to call the Lowell Police Department to get the records about my twin sister’s murder. I was afraid of learning the details.”
From those records and other interviews, Foltz-Gray has pieced together a moment-by-moment account of the 1981 murder of her sister, a psychologist, by one of her patients at the Stoney Brook Counseling Center in Lowell, Massachusetts. But the book is more than an account of murder. It’s also the story of what it was like to grow up in a world where no one could distinguish Foltz-Gray from her identical twin sister. It describes the childhood of two girls so close their memories fuse and identities overlap. And it offers readers a glimpse of how loss shapes all of us—and how human resilience makes ways for new life—even happiness—to reemerge.
Foltz-Gray is now at work on a novel about, yes, loss. But she also continues her day job as a freelance writer and editor specializing in health, a job she’s had for 18 years. She is the author or co-author of four other books: Clean Sweep; Make Pain Disappear; Alternative Treatments for Arthritis: An A to Z Guide; and Food Cures. Her work has appeared in many magazines including Bon Appetit; Cooking Light; Good Housekeeping; Health; Ladies Home Journal; More; Parenting; Prevention; O, The Oprah Magazine; Reader’s Digest; Redbook; Real Simple; Woman’s Day; and others. She is a winner of the Tennessee Arts Commission Fellowship for Poetry; a Mature Media Gold Award; and an East Tennessee Society of Professional Journalists Award of Excellence. She lives in Asheville, North Carolina, with her husband, Dan.