CANNABIS FOR COUPLES: Enhance Intimacy and Elevate Your Relationship, by John Selby (Park Street Press, June, 2020) is step-by-step guide for using cannabis to deepen relationships emotionally, sexually, and spiritually
• Explains the difference between getting high alone and as a couple and explores what happens from a psychological and neurological perspective
• Offers techniques to maximize the effects of being high, facilitate bonding, and resolve relationship issues, plus how to use cannabis as an aphrodisiac
• Examines marijuana’s effects on the chakras, including its impact on the heart chakra, and how to harness these effects to expand consciousness
When couples enjoy cannabis together in the proper set and setting, the experience can deepen relationships through honest sharing and compassionate bonding, as well as boosting sexual pleasure, emotional growth, and spiritual togetherness.
In this step-by-step guide to harnessing the benefits of getting high together, psychologist John Selby explores how to use cannabis as a powerful and effective path to strengthen your relationship and nurture your intimate life. Drawing on his own NIH brain research on the emotional impact of psychoactive chemicals, he explains the difference between getting high alone and as a couple and examines from a psychological and neurological perspective what happens when you get high. Revealing the seven primary types of inner experience and outer behavior stimulated by THC, the author shares stories from his four decades of practice as a couple’s therapist, discussing the power of THC and other cannabinoids to help heal emotional wounds and boost intimacy–and how to determine if using cannabis together is right for you and your partner.
The author explains how to properly prepare for a cannabis session and how to use breath, meditation, and other focusing techniques to deepen the effects of being high and facilitate bonding. He reveals how cannabis-assisted relating can not only deepen relationships but also help to heal anxiety, depression, and PTSD. This book also explores the use of cannabis for sexual pleasure and how the “muse of marijuana” can serve as an inner therapist to work out relationship issues. Shared laughter and emotional freedom are likewise encouraged. Selby also explores cannabis’s energetic influence on the chakras and how to balance and integrate the seven energy centers together with your partner during a cannabis session.
Combining decades of counseling experience with scientific research, Selby encourages couples to enjoy recreational use and begin using cannabis as a unique tool for connecting as a couple and growing together emotionally, sexually, and spiritually.
A thorough examination of what it means to mindfully get high together. This daring book offers a road map to navigate grown-up cannabis experiences that may well be new to you. No matter where you are on the spectrum of smoking, it will help you discover, and rediscover, your world together.”, JULIE HOLLAND, M.D. & JEREMY WOLFF, contributors to The Pot Book
“If you’ve ever imagined that there might be a kind older person with decades of personal and professional experience on how to best use cannabis, who would share in depth a multitude of ways to improve your experiences, you’re going to want this book. John Selby is all of the above and a lot more. This book will lead you into more pleasure, more awareness, greater depths, more sensory excitement, more fun, and more wisdom. Spoiler alert: the last few chapters take what you’ve learned from the rest to a whole new level. Consider this book to be a gift to yourself, your partner, and your relationship.”, James Fadiman, Ph.D., author of The Psychedelic Explorer’s Guide
“John Selby’s years of experience supporting couples on their journey of intentional cannabis use shines throughout this wonderful book. Sharing the cannabis space with a partner is a deeply meaningful experience–and rich with connection and depth. When used intentionally, cannabis can bring couples together in ways that are truly magical. John’s teachings are sincere, incredibly skillful, and pragmatic. He takes all of the trial and error out of the equation, and this allows couples to immediately benefit from safe and sacred cannabis use. He outlines a wonderful foundation that can support years of sacred intimacy between loving partners. I highly recommend this book.”, Daniel McQueen, executive director of the Center for Medicinal Mindfulness
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