Stuff in the ‘Sounds True’ Category

24 August, 2021

How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide by Ericka Sóuter

Continue to have and grow your life, Mom―for your sake and your kids’.

“A brilliant book for any woman out there who is feeling alone, isolated, or overwhelmed with too much to do. It is a must-read guide that will help you understand how we got here, how to take back control of your life, and, most importantly, that you are not alone.” ―Eve Rodsky, New York Times bestselling author of Fair Play: A Game-Changing Solution for When You Have Too Much to Do (and More Life to Live)

“Parenting is arguably the most high-stakes, high-pressure, high-reward endeavor one human being can embark upon. Now, Ericka Sóuter has tapped into the often difficult-to-navigate world of being a parent and a person at the same time, and she does it in a frank, relatable, no-nonsense way. There is something for everyone in here: I laughed, I cried, and I learned. Thank you, Ericka!” ―Jennifer Ashton, MD, mom and ABC News chief medical correspondent

“Everything you need to know about Ericka Sóuter’s tenacity, compassion, and humor as a working mom can be summed up this way: she wrote this amazing book during the pandemic . . . and while potty training. Her empathetic voice, no-BS advice, and guilt-relieving research are an arm around your shoulder. Take comfort.” ―Lauren Smith Brody, author and founder of The Fifth Trimester

When did being a good mom come to mean giving up everything that used to make you … you? That’s the question millions of 21st-century mothers grapple with every single day as they parent in our madly kid-centric culture. Contrary to the incessant messaging from everywhere, committing to yourself and your own needs is what makes for a good mother and happy kids.

With How to Have a Kid and a Life, popular journalist and Good Morning America parenting expert Ericka Sóuter shares her tips for being a happy, whole person while still being a great, and sometimes just good enough (which is plenty fine), parent. Sóuter blends her own stories of surviving the seismic challenges of parenthood with testimonials from stay-at-home and working moms; interviews with therapists and researchers; and findings from the latest studies on happiness, self-care, and parenthood. What she delivers is a wonderfully irreverent survival guide to motherhood, featuring:

• Advice on keeping your career on track while parenting
• Tips for handling clueless and unhelpful partners
• Taking back ownership of your body
• Creating a reliable village of support (even with moms you didn’t think you’d like)
• Staying connected with child-free friends
• What to do if you feel like you’re missing the “mom gene”


20 August, 2021

Souter

Ericka Sóuter is a nationally recognized voice in the realm of parenting news and parenting advice, featured on Good Morning America, World News Tonight with David Muir, Nightline and other national broadcasts. 

She is a contributing editor for Mom.com and her work has also appeared on CafeMom, The Bump and What To Expect, all high traffic parenting sites that reach millions of moms each month. It’s her job to speak to women across the country to stay on top of the issues, controversies and trends most affecting families today. Her new book HOW TO HAVE A KID AND A LIFE (Sounds True)  explores the 21st Century parenting dilemma: when did being a good mom become synonymous with giving up everything that makes you, you?

A journalist with over 20 years of experience, she has been on staff at both People Magazine and Us Weekly where she has written cover stories on everything from the “Sexiest Man Alive” to the untimely death of Michael Jackson. Before becoming a magazine writer, Ms. Sóuter took a short detour into the world of advertising, accepting a post at the Chicago based agency Leo Burnett as an account executive on the Kellogg’s account. Her ad world claim to fame: she was on the team that created the talking Frosted Mini-Wheat.

Ericka received a Bachelor of Arts from Georgetown University and a Master of Science from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism. She has also written for Self, Cosmopolitan, Cosmo for Latinas, Essence, and Huffington Post. A native of Ann Arbor, Michigan, she currently lives in Manhattan with her college sweetheart husband, Caleb, and sons Lex and Aidan.

Follower her on Twitter @erickasouter and Instagram @erickasouter
Her website can be found: here

18 February, 2020

The 10 Keys to a Successful Remarriage: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Round, Terry Gaspard

Based on the author’s personal experience, over 30 years of clinical practice, knowledge from leading marriage and remarriage researchers, and 100 in-depth interviews of remarried people, The Remarriage Manual offers 10 essential keys to a successful remarriage:

1. Build a Culture of Appreciation, Respect, and Tolerance. Negativity is toxic. Personal growth and love are possible when you can express appreciation through positive words and actions.
2. Make Your Remarriage a Top Priority. Never underestimate the power of intentional time with your partner to increase physical and emotional intimacy.
3. Ditch the Baggage from Your First Marriage. Learn ways to be more reflective and less reactive to triggers that hit raw spots or vulnerabilities stemming from prior relationships.
4. Don’t Keep Secrets about Money. Remarried couples face complicated financial issues such as unequal assets, child support, alimony, and education costs for children and stepchildren. Honesty and full disclosure about finances are essential.
5. Don’t Let Mistrust Stop You from Being Vulnerable and Emotionally Intimate. Learn that vulnerability and trust go hand in hand and the steps you can take to be authentic and intimate with your partner so you can achieve long-lasting love.
6. Get Sexy and Fall in Love All Over Again. Given the stressors of a second marriage, it can be particularly challenging to stay sexually intimate. Yet moments of connection, such as touching, talking, or making love, are all part of the glue that holds a second marriage together.
7. Don’t Make a Big Deal about Nothing . . . but Do Deal with Important Issues. Differences in beliefs, expectations, and conversational styles can cause you to blow things out of proportion and tune each other out. Effective communication will help you overcome these types of misunderstandings.
8. Manage the Flames of Conflict. You can’t avoid disagreements entirely. What you can do, however, is learn how to manage them successfully to avoid the “blame game” so that they can nourish rather than drain your remarriage.
9. Embrace Your Role as a Stepparent and Create Positive Stepfamily Memories. There is no such thing as instant love in a stepfamily. When biological parents are involved, the relationships can get even trickier. Learn to adjust to your role as a stepparent―the chances of a second marriage succeeding go way up when both partners adopt an attitude of “we’re in this together.”
10. Say You’re Sorry and Mean It. Studies show that apologizing to your partner for hurting their feelings and granting forgiveness are crucial to the success of a second marriage. It’s essential that remarried couples learn the value of sincere apologies and forgiveness.

Drawing on the experiences of dozens of couples and remarriage scenarios, Terry Gaspard shows you how to bring each key home and set up your relationship for lasting success.

Whether you are thinking of remarrying and concerned about going the distance or are already remarried and struggling, The Remarriage Manual provides the expert advice, practical tools, hope, and inspiration you need to prevent challenges from becoming deal breakers. The 10 keys provided here will help put you and your spouse on solid footing; keep the flame between you burning bright; and build a deeply trusting, loving, and sustainable connection for the long haul.


18 September, 2018

THE REMARRIAGE MANUAL: The 10 Keys that Make Sex, Money, Kids, Communication and More Work the Second Time Round, Terry Gaspard, LICSW

From the author of DAUGHTERS OF DIVORCE, marriage counselor, and relationship blogger Terry Gaspard explains how go avoid becoming another dismal divorce statistic by learning tools for handling the issues specific to a second (or third) marriage (Sounds True, World Rights, Spring 2020)


5 December, 2015

Gaspard

Popular relationship blogger, family therapist, and author, Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, has seen first hand that 2nd marriages face challenges that 1st marriages simply do not. Increased financial pressures; unfinished business with exes; the complications of blending families; scrambling for time for romance, let alone sex; and more can strain second marriages to the breaking point. In her latest book, THE REMARRIAGE MANUAL: How to Make Everything Work Better the Second Time Around (Sounds True, February 2020), she shares the expert advice, practical tools, hope, and inspiration that remarrying (and already remarried) couples need to make sure their 2nd (or 3rd) marriages will finally be their happily ever after.

THE REMARRIAGE MANUAL will help put readers and their spouses on solid footing; make sure the flame between them keeps burning bright; and build a deeply trusting, loving, and sustainable connection for the long haul.

Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience specializing in children, individuals, couples, families, divorce, and remarriage, as well as an author, nonfiction writer, and college instructor.  She is a popular speaker who frequently offers commentary on divorce, marriage, remarriage, and relationship issues. Two of Terry’s research studies on adult children of divorce have been published in the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. Her previous book, Daughters of Divorce: Overcome the Legacy of Your Parents Breakup and Enjoy a Happy, Long-lasting relationship, was published by Sourcebooks in 2016. She is the owner of movingpastdivorce.com and a regular contributor to The Gottman Relationship Blog, Patheos.com, marriage.com, thegoodmenproject.com,  divorcedmoms.com, and divorcemagazine.com.

Follow Terry on Twitter at @MovingPastDivorce and find updates about their book on their Facebook page: Moving Past Divorce