From the author of DAUGHTERS OF DIVORCE, marriage counselor, and relationship blogger Terry Gaspard explains how go avoid becoming another dismal divorce statistic by learning tools for handling the issues specific to a second (or third) marriage (Sounds True, World Rights, Spring 2020)
Stuff in the ‘Terry Gaspard’ Category
18 September, 2018
THE REMARRIAGE MANUAL: The 10 Keys that Make Sex, Money, Kids, Communication and More Work the Second Time Round, Terry Gaspard, LICSW
16 March, 2016
Where I Write: Terry Gaspard
Our next WHERE I WRITE, in which our authors share their favorite writing spots, is from Terry Gaspard, author of DAUGHTERS OF DIVORCE (Sourcebooks, 2016)
“Although I have a comfortable home office with a coffee pot nearby, my favorite place to write is
my local library. And today, as I sit in my preferred private room at the Portsmouth Free Public Library, I’m reminded of how I was teased by my three sisters and my father growing up about getting “dressed up” to go to the library on Saturday afternoon. My dad would say things like “There she goes again in her new outfit with her backpack full of books – she’s trying to escape our crazy house!” To this day, I’m happiest writing at my home away from home, where I hope to find solace once and for all!” – Terry Gaspard
25 January, 2016
Daughters of Divorce by Terry Gaspard and Tracy Clifford
Restore your faith in love and build healthy, successful relationships with this essential guide for every woman haunted by her parents’ divorce.
Over 40 percent of Americans ages eighteen to forty are children of divorce. Yet women with divorced parents are more than twice as likely than men to get divorced themselves and struggle in romantic relationships. In this powerful, uplifting guide, mother-daughter team Terry and Tracy draws on thirty years of clinical practice and interviews with over 320 daughters of divorce to help you recognize and overcome the unique emotional issues that parental separation creates so you can build the happy, long-lasting relationships you deserve.
Reviews
“If you’re in a family of divorce as a daughter or parent this book is for you. Gaspard and Clifford are a mother and daughter who have gone through it themselves. From self-esteem to the impact on your relationships, this book gives you practical doable action steps to help you learn how to change your story or narrative and see divorce through adult eyes. It can be very helpful for adult children of divorce, and for mothers and fathers who are looking for insights and ideas to help their daughters.” – Jeff Zimmerman, ABPP Clinical Psychologist and co-author of Adult Children of Divorce and The Co-Parenting Survival Guide
“Daughters of Divorce is an original and timely treatment of a very important topic. Bravely told from the perspective of the authors, a divorced mother and her daughter, Daughters of Divorce provides empathy, guidance and wisdom for those who are struggling to understand the impact of divorce on their lives and choices. Highly recommended!” – Joshua Coleman, Ph.D. Psychologist and author of When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don’t Get Along
“Finally! A book about divorce that is specifically focused on women. This thoughtful, insightful and uplifting book acknowledges the unique impact of divorce on its daughters while offering concrete steps and practical solutions.” – Elisabeth J. LaMotte LICSW, author of Overcoming Your Parents’ Divorce
“Rarely have I read a book that is as honest, courageous and optimistic as Terry Gaspard’s Daughters of Divorce. Ms. Gaspard has skillfully crafted a book that combines authenticity, warmth and clinical expertise – a rare combination in the self-help genre. This gem of a book is chock filled with intriguing personal reflection, vignettes, tasks and assignments. It is a virtual handbook for daughters seeking to stop this transgenerational pattern, dead in its tracks.” – Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us
“”…the authors’ solid and empathetic advice is applicable to anyone who has suffered childhood traumas affecting his or her ability to trust in the power of love.”
” – Publishers Weekly
5 December, 2015
Gaspard
Today, about 40 percent of all children in America will experience a parental divorce prior to the age of eighteen. For years, researchers have identified the damage divorce inflicts on the lives of children. In recent decades, many studies have examined the negative impact of parental divorce on children into adulthood. However, few have offered concrete strategies for overcoming these difficulties and none have shed light on the unique challenges of women as daughters of divorce.
As a therapist practicing for over thirty years, Terry Gaspard has noticed that while parental divorce impacts most children into adulthood, daughters experience unique vulnerabilities that put them at great risk of passing on the legacy of divorce to their children.
Terry’s interest in the lives of women who grew up in divorced families began with her own experience. She decided to write Daughters of Divorce with her daughter Tracy Clifford because the topic of overcoming the legacy of divorce is a personal one for them – divorce goes back five generations in their family. Having experienced divorce in their own lives, they have a keen understanding of how it can affect the inner lives of children, and impact the kinds of adults they become.
In their new book, Daughters of Divorce: Overcome The Legacy of Your Parents’ Breakup and Enjoy a Happy, Long-Lasting Relationship, mother-daughter team Terry and Tracy tackle a timely and very important topic – the intergenerational aspect of divorce. They draw on Terry’s thirty years of clinical practice and interviews with over 320 daughters of divorce to help readers recognize and overcome the unique emotional issues that parental separation creates so they can build the happy, long-lasting relationships they deserve.
“Rarely have I read a book that is as honest, courageous and optimistic as Terry Gaspard’s Daughters of Divorce. Ms. Gaspard has skillfully crafted a book that combines authenticity, warmth and clinical expertise – a rare combination in the self-help genre. This gem of a book is chock filled with intriguing personal reflection, vignettes, tasks and assignments. It is a virtual handbook for daughters seeking to stop this transgenerational pattern, dead in its tracks.”
— Ross Rosenberg, M.Ed., LCPC, CADC, CSAT, author of The Human Magnet Syndrome: Why We Love People Who Hurt Us
Unlike most books about divorce, Daughters of Divorce asks women to honestly examine their own lives and identify how their past might contribute to relationship failure. In Daughters of Divorce, the authors unveil The Seven Steps to a Successful Relationship which provides a road map for women to recognize destructive dynamics in intimate relationships and take steps to change them so they can create strong partnerships and break the legacy of divorce once and for all.
Terry Gaspard, MSW, LICSW, is a licensed therapist with over thirty years of clinical experience specializing in divorce, children, and families, as well as a nonfiction writer and college instructor.
She is a sought-after speaker who frequently offers commentary on divorce and her research on daughters of divorce. Two of Terry’s research studies on adult children of divorce have been published in the Journal of Divorce and Remarriage. Terry is a regular contributor to Huffington Post Divorce, divorcedmoms.com, divorcemagazine.com, and yourtango.com. Tracy Clifford is a writer and conducted the in-depth study of daughters of divorce with her mother. Terry and Tracy live in New England and are co-owners of movingpastdivorce.com.
Follow Terry on Twitter at @MovingPastDivorce and find updates about their book on their Facebook page: Moving Past Divorce
23 July, 2014
DAUGHTERS OF DIVORCE, Terry Gaspard and Tracy Clifford
Licensed clinical social worker, teacher, and relationship blogger, Terry Gaspard, and her daughter Tracy Clifford’s DAUGHTERS OF DIVORCE, a guide for the millions of women who are haunted by their experiences growing up in divorced households and are struggling to heal the wounds of the past and build lasting, happy relationships as adults. (Sourcebooks, Fall 2015), World excluding Asia