Stuff in the ‘UnSelfie’ Category

21 February, 2019

THRIVERS: The Surprising Secrets of Happy, High Performing Kids in a Winner-Take-All World, Michele Borba, Ed.D.

From the author of UNSELFIE, educator and parenting expert Michele Borba comes a book about raising kids to roll with the punches and succeed in life–not just in school.  Dr. Borba identifies 7 signature strengths that can be nurtured in children from preschool to high school. (Putnam, Spring 2021, World exclusive of translation in Japan, Korea, China, Taiwan)

6 June, 2016

UNSELFIE: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed, Dr. Michele Borba

Is the Selfie Syndrome Undermining Our Kids’ Future?

In her new book, UNSELFIE (Touchstone/Simon & Schuster, June 2016), bestselling author Michele Borba offers a 9-step program to help parents cultivate empathy in children, from birth to young adulthood—and explainsrevised2 why developing a healthy sense of empathy is a key predictor of which kids will thrive and succeed in the future.

Teens today are 40 percent less empathetic than they were thirty years ago. Why is a lack of empathy—which goes hand-in-hand with the self-absorption epidemic Dr. Michele Borba calls the Selfie Syndrome—so dangerous? First, it hurts kids’ academic performance and leads to bullying behaviors. Also, it correlates with more cheating and less resilience. And once children grow up, a lack of empathy hampers their ability to collaborate, innovate, and problem-solve—all must-have skills for the global economy.

In UnSelfie Dr. Borba pinpoints the forces causing the empathy crisis and shares a revolutionary, researched-based, 9-step plan for reversing it. Readers will learn:

-Why discipline approaches like spanking, yelling, and even time-out can squelch empathy

-How lavish praise inflates kids’ egos and keeps them locked in “selfie” mode

-Why reading makes kids smarter and kinder

-How to help kids be Upstanders—not bystandersin the face of bullying

-Why self-control is a better predictor of wealth, health, and happiness than grades or IQ

-Why the right mix of structured extracurricular activities and free play is key for teaching collaboration

-How to ignite a Kindness Revolution in your kids and community

The good news? Empathy is a trait that can be taught and nurtured. Dr. Borba offers a framework for parenting that yields the results we all want: successful, happy kids who also are kind, moral, courageous, and resilient. UnSelfie is a blueprint for parents and educators who want to kids shift their focus from I, me, and mine…to we, us, and ours.

Praise for Dr. Borba and UNSELFIE:

“[The] go-to parent expert.” (CNN)

“The most trusted parenting expert in America.” (Dr. Drew)

“The Mommy Whisperer.” (Natalie Morales, TODAY show)

“UnSelfie is the most important parenting book you will read this year.” (Jean M. Twenge, author of Generation Me and co-author of The Narcissism Epidemic)

UnSelfie contains everything parents and educators need how to know to give children the ‘empathy advantage’ and raise a new generation of caring, happy, successful kids. Nobody on the planet is better than Michele Borba at showing you how to put empathy into action. Read this book. It will change your kids’ lives!” (Jack Canfield, Coauthor of the Chicken Soup for the Parent’s Soul and The Success Principles™)

“Once again Dr. Michele Borba has written a book that is not only ‘good’ but essential. By writing about empathy in the context of our children’s increased technology use, Dr. Borba penetrates the often hidden world of electronics. She does so with a science-based perspective that mirrors our own common sense. UnSelfie is a must-read for parents, teachers, and policy-makers.” (Michael Gurian, author of The Wonder of Boys and The Wonder of Girls)

22 March, 2010


Dr. Michele Borba is a globally-recognized educational psychologist and parenting, bullying and character expert whose aim is to strengthen children’s empathy and resilience, and break the cycle of youth violence. She has delivered keynotes and workshops to over 1,000,000 participants on 5 continents and authored 24 books translated into 14 languages.  Her most recent books include Thrivers:  The Surprising Reasons Why Some Kids Struggle and Others Shine (Putnam, March 2021; paperback release March 2022) and UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed in Our All About Me World (Touchstone/Simon & Schuster, June 2016).

A sought-after motivational speaker, Michele Borba addresses educators and parents worldwide, and has served as an educational consultant to hundreds of schools and organizations. Her proposal, “Ending School Violence and Student Bullying” (SB 1667) was signed into California law in 2002. Borba is an NBC contributor and appeared 135 times on the Today Show as well as Dateline, Anderson Cooper, Dr. Phil, Dr. Oz, The View, NBC Nightly News, The Early Show, CNN and others. Borba is an in-demand motivational speaker and workshop presenter. She is a former classroom teacher and mom of three.

Borba’s strong and extensive backlist of books include The Big Book of Parenting Solutions, Nobody Likes Me, Everybody Hates Me! , No More Misbehavin’, 38 Difficult Behaviors and How to Stop Them, Don’t Give Me that Attitude!, Building Moral Intelligence (cited by Publishers’ Weekly as “among the most noteworthy of 2001”) and Parents Do Make A Difference (selected by Child Magazine as “Outstanding Parenting Book of 1999”).

For more information, go to, follow her on Twitter @micheleborba